Color of hate.

No one needs an introduction to how big a problem “Racism” is, and how India has been caught several times in disgust for being a “Racist country”. If you haven’t already seen it, here are the results from a survey conducted by Washington Post last year.

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Even if the evidence do-not stand strong during this survey, I would never deny the fact that India could be one of the top racist countries.

I recently came across the rally conducted in Bangalore opposing racism towards Africans. My first reaction towards it was “Well, one more. When will this stop?”. When I was in India, there was a huge campaign, “Dark is beautiful“. Dark is Beautiful is an awareness campaign to draw attention to the unjust effects of skin color bias. 

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This campaign doesn’t seem to have had the transformative impact in intra-Indian social relations.

Everyone across the globe is proud of our cultural diversity and it’s amazing united efforts when it comes to sports like cricket, pitching voices against attacks from other countries. History shows us as the nation of “Ahimsa”, non-violence. But, deep down the hearts, there are stems of caste based prejudice. This is how most of us were trained to distinguish between people based on their caste, gender, color, creed, status, etc. Every community believes that their culture, traditions and customs is the best, which is good, however, they fail to accept and understand the differences in people. There is a low esteem towards several other communities/states/religions. Like this wasn’t enough, the other factor that added to it, was skin color. For ex: Arranged marriages in India, technically happen among individuals from same caste, creed, status, religion, state. 

To detail, all the discrimination towards North-East Indians, Biharis, North Indians towards South Indians, S.Indians towards N.Indians, what’s the basis for all this? 

The common notion of beauty in India is attached to fair skin, which is evident in several incidents. Matrimonial ads boast of fair, very fair and very very fair skin alongside foreign visas and advanced university degrees.

(Although out of context, do watch this video made by few colleagues of mine from college, showing the Indian style matrimonial ads.
P.S: They took inspiration from actual matrimonial pages and a lot of these were actual real ads.)

The endorsement of a plethora of fairness products substantiate this. With most of the celebrities not only endorsing these products, but those who are dark skinned transforming themselves to fit into this big puzzle, only adds up to the craze. The insane ads show all kinds of crap and god knows what they are trying to teach.

  1. Fair and Lovely : A retired father with money problems laments that he didn’t have a son to bail him out. His dark-skinned daughter decides she’ll “be a son” and uses a Fair & Lovely to land a coveted job as a flight attendant.
  2. Fair & Handsome : Even India’s biggest superstar, actor Shahrukh Khan, is in on it. He recalls his (clearly fictional) past, when he was a regular guy who wanted to be a celebrity.
    (Source)

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The oppression of Africans and black skinned people from Uganda and Nigeria in the past can also be attributed to the deep seated contempt towards dark skin. Several movies portray jokes/racist comments towards other religion/caste/color. They might not totally mean it, but, they should also remember the impact they are going to create on general public.

Living in India was a childhood dream that deepened with my growing understanding of India and America’s unique, shared history of non-violent revolution. Yet, in most nations, the path of ending gender, race and class discrimination is unpaved. In India, this path is still rural and rocky as if this nation has not decided the road even worthy. It is a footpath that we are left to tread individually.said a foreign PhD student at the Delhi School of Economics, in his post in outlookindia. Read more about his experience here.

We blame foreigners for being racist to Indians living in their country. But are we any better? 

We are racist towards people from our own country!

While trying to become a developed nation like America, are we also trying to incorporate their skin color and victimize others? If we’re so desperate about changing the world’s perceptions about India, if we want to tell the world that we are modern, educated and developed, that we’re not a land of snake charmers anymore, the first thing we should do is to look into ourselves and understand that we need to change our own perceptions about ourselves, before changing others. Ofcourse this doesn’t represent everyone. There are several Indians who aren’t racists and are fed up of many because of whom the entire nation is being blamed. On behalf of all of them, I plead,

“Don’t be the racist you hate so much”

 

 

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Gratitude!

Being sick sucks. May be not totally, not this time. My sickness gave me quality home time, quality home food and more quality time with myself, my thoughts, my vetti-ness (joblessness) and me. All of us have this bunch of people in our life, who no matter what, are in constant contact with us. However, we do have hundreds of other people in our life, who in a small or big way, good or bad, did make a minute of your life special. For ex., that old friend of yours who used to make fun of you all the time, that neighbor of yours who was ready to pain you with a bunch of gossips, your old classmate who was always smiling and cheerful, the auto-uncle who was sweet and kind to everyone, the Gurunath uncle you had visited almost everyday.

We might be happy or sad for being away from them. Those could be good or bad memories, but, you atleast have a bunch of memories filled with lessons taught or learnt. How is life if it’s always a set of people who are with you, supporting you no matter what. They play an important positive role in our life by encouraging us with anything we do, but, life is not only about happy moments, laughters and joy! It is a mixture of sunshine and rain, tears and laughter, pleasure and pain. I would like to dedicate this post to all those beautiful people in my life, who shared their precious time with me and helped me become who I am now. 

“First, I want to thank my family. I only see less and less of you every year and many of you are no longer here. I want to thank you all for your kindness, wisdom, and patience. I want to thank my parents for inspiring me to follow my dreams and heart, making me laugh, and teaching me to always do what I love.

Thank you to my teachers for investing so much time on me and helping me understand not only the subjects, but also the values of life. I want to thank all those people around me, who were part of those obstacles and taught me that life isn’t always fair or easy. Because of them I am a better, stronger, and more independent person.

I want to thank all my friends/classmates, both the ones I talk to everyday and not. I’ve learned that not all the friends will always be your friends. Life paths change and people often drift apart. Although I’ve made new ones, I do cherish my memories with my old friends. So thank you to all of you, whether our friendship originated from the playground, chemistry lab, classroom, food court, or social media. 

Thanks to all those juniors/seniors of mine, who were ready not only to get ragged by me, but also for ragging me. You definitely taught me that not everything that feels difficult is actually difficult, and that age is no constraint for us to become friends. You also taught me that friendships need not start by sharing flowers, but with pain and embarrassment too.

Thank you to all my roommates and wing-mates for sharing a special bond of living together, for tolerating the nuisances of this girl, and not judging me and for being such amazing friends with me. 

Thanks to all those people who loved me, even if  I couldn’t reciprocate. You guys made me feel loved and happy, and taught me that love still exists.

All of you made an impact. Although my circle gets tighter, it is also getting firmer. Thank you for being a part of my life!”

P.S: I also have second thoughts on starting a diary of “My autograph – Sweet memories”. Most of the South Indians can relate to this from Ravi Teja’s film. I did get inspired from it, however, mine will be filled with everyone who made an impact in life, which is like a lot of people. Exactly why I said second thoughts. You see, as you get older, you only have more and more memories and more and more people around you, which means more and more autographs, hence more and more writing, and more and more time. Still, I guess it will be worth it. I will leave you free now. Cya! 😉

 

Are we just ‘talking’ feminism?

None of us need an introduction to the on-going “Feminism” and the increasing no of protests everyday. Although we have come a long way regarding women’s rights, the ideas of women being completely equal to men just aren’t true. What is feminism?

Feminism is a collection of movements and ideologies aimed at defining, establishing, and defending equal political, economic, and social rights for women . . . The definition of feminism is the struggle for gender equality. As such, we consider it necessary to acknowledge the existence, and the legitimacy, of men’s issues, and the need for a movement and a dedicated discussion space to address such issues.

Feminists aren’t a bunch of angry women who want to be like men, or one who want to rule the world and believe that men aren’t necessary. As a human being, male or female, if you believe in the idea of equal rights for everyone, that’s all you need to align with feminist theories. The ideology behind feminism is just that “gender” is not a defining quality behind who you are, and what you should be. This is no modern idea, feminism exists since 1800s. In India, the very first feminist movements were initiated by men, to abolish sati (widow’s death by burning on her husband’s funeral pyre), child marriage, introducing re-marriage for widows, promoting women education etc. Since then, there were a lot of changes in the system. Currently, women have more social, political and economic rights than ever before. But, how many of us agree that there is no sexism, sexual exploitation and female oppression. Everyday I open a news channel, half of what I see is about  sexual assaults. All of us can relate to these incidents happening around us.

 Sexual victimization of women is well over 60% – 1 in 2 women will experience sexual violence victimization other than rape (The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey | 2010 Summary Report). Part of this is because of how women are viewed. Women are more than bodies – the constant sexualization and objectification of women is unacceptable. Young men hearing the message “No means Yes” is horribly damaging. Feminism aims to address these issues for women and through feminist education and theory, less women will be sexually assaulted. The objectification and sexualization of the female body will be less prevalent as the world learns that women are far more than bodies. Women won’t be accused of “asking for it,” or “being emotional.” They will be heard when they step forward.

However, feminism is not just for women. Feminism is for everybody.

Feminism taking root is also valuable for men who experience sexual assault. It is not uncommon for men to be particularly reticent with personal feelings or experiences. Sexual assault is not something that is easy for anyone to speak about. But I empathize with men who have to face additional stigmas dictated by a more patriarchal society when  broaching this subject.

Ideas in our society prevent male survivors from speaking out about sexual assaultBecause of how men are socialized and expected to behave in our society, a male survivor of sexual assault may feel as if he is not a “real man.”  Because men are often expected to always be ready for sex and to be the aggressors in sexual relationships, it may be difficult for a man to tell people that he has been sexually assaulted . . . this stigma may negatively impact a male survivor’s social experiences, and it may also lead male survivors to avoid disclosure (http://sapac.umich.edu/article/53)

Why are we stressing on women? “India’s Daughter”, still remember this title? The banned documentary made by BBC about a victim, who was gang-raped in bus and beaten to death. I still remember how the comments made during the documentary triggered the woman organizations internationally.

  • “A decent girl won’t roam around at nine o’clock at night. A girl is far more responsible for rape than a boy.” said one of the accused.  
  • “In our society, we never allow our girls to come out from the house after 6:30 or 7:30 or 8:30 in the evening with any unknown person,” said one of the lawyers, ML Sharma.
  • “You are talking about man and woman as friends. Sorry, that doesn’t have any place in our society. We have the best culture. In our culture, there is no place for a woman.”, said other lawyer.

Judge’s decision in this case may help provide a sense of closure for the woman’s family and friends. Then what happened? Where do we stand now? More rapes and more murders. Did we get any better? NO. Are we planning to get better? I don’t know! The no of sexual assaults only keep increasing day by day. 

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These are few of the million cases out there. All we are asking for a real-democratic country, where woman is not treated as an animal, and given equal rights to survive and express herself. Here is a recent article discussing the abuse a woman faces day to day: Dark Truths of Sex behind closed doors in India.

Less schooling, low female literacy rate, fewer work opportunities, no freedom for choice of life, systemic discrimination, sexual assaults, female foeticide. In 21st century? Really?Changing this requires serious rethinking in the halls of government, in courts, schools and police stations. It also means change in Indian homes. All women should be open about discussing any kind of abuse or ill treatment. Hiding yourself means making yourself a victim.

“First, we have to change ourselves. Until we change the mindset in our homes, this will continue.”

The struggle to stop violence against women is far from over.

Like Mahatma Gandhi once said “the day a woman can walk freely on the roads, that day we can say that India achieved independence”

I am thankful to all the leaders who worked for Women Empowerment. If not for them, I wouldn’t be here, at this stage, being who I am and doing what I am doing. I hope we get better at addressing our issues regarding “Equal rights”. 4-women-support-vawa

Women are more than just bodies. She can not just give birth to you, but do way more than that. Let’s empower each other. For a better society, for a better future.

 

Here is my other post discussing the transition a woman goes through: D/O to W/O

The unpredictable weather alert!

I was talking to my friend George and his friend Jill yesterday, about how the weather has been warm and pleasant recently and the happiness of walking on the streets without jackets or other winter clothing. The next thing I remember is waking up to a snowy day. It’s like the sky had a grudge on me, “you are gonna catch cold tonight and I will release the snow in the morning”. Jokes apart, everyone knows about these unpredictable weathers, not just in halifax but in several other countries across the planet. Not many decide to talk about it, not even me. 

We all know that the climate disruption is getting worse day by day. Ever since my childhood, I had been taught about the growing global warming issues and it’s side effects. I came across an article where UN expert Stanford said in a conference at Truro, 

“What’s happening here is that warming temperatures are doing two things. The loss of Arctic sea ice is changing the pattern by which the jet stream circulates and alters our weather patterns. The second thing that’s happening is that warming temperatures are allowing more water vapour to be transported, therefore to contribute more moisture to summer rainstorms and winter snowstorms. The combination of the two is greater disruption and more unpredictable weather events widely, events that persist longer, stay longer, are more intense and more disruptive.”

We are seeing this everywhere. We are all experiencing unexpected floods, earthquakes etc., leading to death of hundreds of people, infrastructural damages and loss of economy. As easy as it is to say that these are all natural calamities, why are the incidences higher in the recent past than ever before? We should never forget about the human contribution in ruining this planet. It’s time to take in the hydro-climatic issues personally, take first level of responsibility to protect your own properties and families. Form communities and tackle this issue together, along with help from government bodies. 

We all know about the much awaited Oscar winner Leonardo DiCaprio. I hope along with celebrating his achievement, we still remember his speech concerning climate change.

“Making ‘The Revenant’ was about man’s relationship to the natural world, the world that we collectively felt in 2015 as the hottest year in reported history — our production needed to move to the southern tip of this planet just to be able to find snow,” DiCaprio said. “Climate change is real. It is happening right now. It’s the most urgent threat facing our entire species and we need to work collectively together and stop procrastinating.”

DiCaprio continued, “We need to support leaders around the world who do not speak for the big polluters, but who speak for all of humanity, for the indigenous people of the world, for the billions and billions of underprivileged people out there who would be most affected by this. For our children’s children, and for those people out there whose voices have been drowned out by the politics of greed. I thank you all for this amazing award tonight. Let us not take this planet for granted. I do not take tonight for granted.”  

Here is his speech during the UN climate change summit: Climate Change – Leonardo.

Although a lot of celebrities are becoming environmentalists lately, I think we, the general public need to start with becoming aware of the climate changes around us. Learn what’s causing it and how can one prevent it. As small as planting a tree, preventing discharge of green house gases, etc.

Here are two articles for more information on rising global climate issues and what you can do to prevent them. 
1. Climate – Extreme weathers
2. Climate Change Solutions

These are few of many articles discussing this issue out there. Several conferences/ summits are held every year to discuss these problems. It’s time to call for a change. 

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CLIMATE HEALTH IS HUMAN HEALTH.

P.S: I still love the snow.

In the far west

Wondering why WordPress now? My dear friend Srihi has started her blog recently which reminded me of my super inactive profile. This post is a small update about what I am upto.

Life has been nothing but a crazy rat-race for the past couple of years. Too much has happened in my life than just one blog post could explain. In fact, I don’t remember most of it, it all feels like a dream. Some mistakes, some regrets, some achievements, zillions of happy/sad moments, making memories for a life time. All these lessons reminded me yet again, Life is no path of flowers, but one filled with muddy roads, rocky ways, smooth drives and rough tasks. Whatever it is, we either make it or break it, just make it worthwhile! July 25, 2015 – I graduated from IIT Madras.

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A journey of thousand miles begins with a single step they say. Mine has started with a single one-way air ticket to this far city, Halifax. Chase your dreams, catch your dreams, if you aren’t dreaming high enough, you aren’t dreaming it right. Heard these before? That’s my mind, all the time, and the reason why I had to move to this city. During an extensive search to start my dream career involving cancer research, I came across Dr. Patrick Lee, who is well known for his work on cancer immunotherapies using oncolytic viruses. I admire the process of learning, especially the concept of diversifying your specializations. Cancer Biology-Immunology-Virology, a fascinating combination of biological sciences. With the booming research on personalized medicines, the focus of today’s drug market revolves around these three fields. Enough of the nerd talk, but yes, this is why I am here, hoping to contribute to this world, starting my amateur scientist path, with loads of excitement and love for science.

It’s been six months now, and I am already into a head to toe busy life. Without giving much thought about my personal or social life, I blindly made a decision of moving here. Although I feel content and excited with my professional life, I wonder what’s happening with my personal life. A never ending to-do list, with a steep learning curve defining the current situation, there is no much time to deal with any other thoughts.  However, Friday nights are the most miserable, the memories with friends and family rushing back, the lonely soul suffers sometimes.The devastating time zones adding to the nuisance, I would love to take 50 hours a day. All that keeps me going is the spirit for work. Therefore, my life right now is pretty much being a “lab-bee” as my friends always mention. There is no such thing as a ‘weekend’ or a ‘holiday’, not until I win the “Nobel Prize” (not that it should stop me, but since there is no such chance, it is a great way to keep up the zeal) or until there is a cure for cancer.

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I am still trying to keep up with my other activities, going to gym/ playing squash/ arts, once in a few weeks and outings with my labmates. I have done a lot of my first-time things, mainly before “Turning 22”. Making new friends, coping up with loss of a dear friend, maintaining old relations, struggling hard to move away from the ‘home-sickness’, being a socially awkward person at times, striving to make the best use of my time, all a part of this wonderful ride.

Whatever it is, life goes on.

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P.S: If you are still interested to read my crappy posts, I previously briefed about my initial encounters with the “Canadian” style.

Here is the link: On the Other Hand! – The well known strangeness..

Will be back with more posts. Sayonara!

Turning 22.

“It’s your birthday in few days. You should do this. You should do that”, this is how my parents and friends are all excited about my birthday. The one birthday in which I surprisingly lost all the interest. Is this the influence of my idiotic buddy Jun, who is always against any kind of celebrations? I don’t know.

As I think about it, 22 doesn’t sound as good as 21. For the second time (First time was when I was turning 20) in my life, I am yet again confused about the math related to age and brain. With a childlike mindset and looks, I am not even allowed into bars or pubs (forget the drinks) without showing an ID proof. The fear of growing old has started in me. I would really like to ignore this feeling. 
This is totally me, right now. 😛
I can now understand the feelings of others who are actually growing old. In order to cope up with my ageing life and make myself feel better, I looked up for to-do-before/during-21 lists to see where I stand.
Here it goes:
1. Buy yourself a drink you’ve never had. 
You’re legal all over the world dammit, so flash that ID like you mean it. Step out of your comfort zone and steer clear of the words “cranberry” and “vodka” especially together. Try that weird looking name like the Freddy Fudpucker or Dirty Diaper, or that concoction that couldn’t possibly taste good with all the random ingredients in it. It just might win the title of your new favorite drink… or end up spit on the floor, but you’ll never know the outcome unless you try!
Haha, totally!

2. Visit a place you’ve never been. 
A new country would be nice. But hey, by the look of your dinner menu that consisted of mac and cheese and ramen noodles for the past oh I don’t know five months, I understand cash is low. So let’s settle for a new city. Somewhere you can get to if you just jump into a car or a bus.
Moved to a place I’ve never been. :/

3. Update your wardrobe.  X
It’s about time those Hollister and Abercrombie graphic tees are thrown into a trash can Salvation Army donation box. When shopping, instead of going straight for the sweatpants, opt for something more dressy. You’ll soon, if not already, be making the transition from classroom to office and it’ll be nice to have some staples already waiting for you in the closet.
Could be worked on a bit more.

4. Show appreciation towards your parents/guardians. 
If you’re lucky, you still live with them which means home cooked meals are the norm, you have an endless amount of fresh underwear (thanks to a mother who’s gracious enough to do your laundry), the words “electricity” and “bills” are unimportant and you get a goodnight kiss before bed. Your parents, whether you live with them or not, have taken care of you for a long while and now is a good time to let them know how thankful you are. Apparently folks also appreciate a nice dinner out, flowers or a monetary gift. They’ve spoiled you for 21 years, so maybe instead of opting for that keg you can use your spare change to give back.
Not lucky enough to still live with them, but heartful of appreciations and surprises!

5. Write a letter to yourself in ten years. 
Your life is going to be drastically different when you’re 31. If life goes the way society expects it to you’ll probably be married, maybe even with a kid or two. Tell yourself the hopes and dreams you have at 21 and what you wish you’ve accomplished by 31. Spill the problems and decisions you’re currently dealing with which, when you read this in the future will all end up seeming trivial.

‘A’ letter? Haha, hell no. Too many letters. 

6. Invest your money.
If you have money to spare, take a risk and invest it whether in a stock, a bond or a thing. You may be rewarded financially greatly in the future.

Umm. Not really interested :/

7. Get in touch with a long lost friend from high school. 
Can you believe it’s been four years since you’ve left the comforting (or constraining depending how your experience was) walls of high school? The supposedly second best four years of your life (first is college, again depending how your experience was). I’m sure if you pull out that dusty yearbook and take a look through, you’ll come across some not-so-familiar faces that you saw every day. Look up your friends on Facebook and shoot them a simple, “hey how’s it going” message. You may get R-bombed, you will may get a “who is this?” response, but with some people you’ll go back to talking as if nothing has changed. You can thank Mark Zuckerberg later.

Very good at this, always! 😉

8. Delete all of your exes on social media.
If you still talk to them and are friends, cool. If not, unfriend and unfollow and make moving on Facebook official. There’s no need to be reminded of what you missed out on every time you scroll through your newsfeed or dashboard.

Out of my tasks anyway.

9. Quit something. 
Whether it’s a bad habit, a job that you hate, or even a deadly relationship. Now is as good a time as any to say goodbye to the things or people in your life that are bringing you down. Obviously, go through the pros and cons first and make sure it’s a good decision.
Being impatient – Done.

10. Start something. 
Honestly you’ll never know how good you are at something until you try. You may have not had parents who you signed up for every single sport or class as a child, but that doesn’t have to stop you from ever trying tennis or snowboarding or ballet. You may have passed your prime age to take the sport to the competitive level and become a professional, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be the star player on your house league team. Convinced you have not a single athletic bone in your body? That’s cool, embrace what you were gifted with and start something using that. Writers can start a blog, leaders/go-getters can start a business, artists can enroll in a pottery class. The possibilities are truly endless.
Sadhu-istic. Waking up early. Gym. 😛

11. Create a blog. 
Maybe you’re not super talented when it comes to writing or photography, but that shouldn’t stop you from blogging, even if it’s just for yourself. Creating a blog gives you a free platform to express yourself and share your interests. I understand that WordPress can be daunting for beginners, so just sign up for Tumblr and join the simple world of reblogging.
Haha, both blogger and wordpress.

12. Read a self-help book.  
Enough of that unrealistic fiction, try reading something that will help you become a better person, achieve your goals and motivate you. Okay, so maybe unrealistic fiction can in fact do all of the above, but maybe try a book that was written with those main intentions.
Yes, boy!

13. Spend some time volunteering.  
During this time in your life, a time when your wallet is usually starving and you’re drowning in debt, working for free is probably the last thing on your to-do list. However, there are many rewards that come with helping out, though they aren’t financial. Just one hour a week can make a difference in your community, a person’s life or in the larger spectrum, the world. Volunteering also gives you one extra thing to add to that oh-so-important resume.
NSS Vallipuram, Forget about the credits, I still loved to be there. 😀 😀

14. Edit your resume.  
Think about the last time you opened up your resume. Was it three years ago when you walked through the entire mall handing one to every store? Regardless, you’ve gained many more skills and experiences since then and now is a good time to update the piece of paper that’s going to sell you to employers. You may have already graduated college or will be soon, and it’s nice to have a more recent document to work off of instead of trying to desperately remember what you did during the past three years as a sales associate.

For hours and hours, and months!

15. Create a business card for yourself.  
They say networking is key to landing a job. Who is they and is what they’re saying true? I have no clue. But it doesn’t hurt to have some professional cards in your wallet at all times, if you do run into someone important or helpful.

CFI, CFI, CFI.

16. Recreate an old photograph.  
You’ve probably seen them take over the internet. Those brilliant two pictures, one from 1999 and one from 2014, where its subjects are in the relatively same location wearing the relatively same clothes in the relatively same pose. Why not go ahead and follow this fabulous trend yourself with family members, friends or even solo? When you look at that photograph, every time you do it’ll make you laugh. (Get my Nickelback reference? No? I don’t blame you.)
Always!

17. Clean out your computer.
Our mothers and roommates constantly nag us to clean up after ourselves. We take the time to clean our rooms, clean our closets, clean every inch of our homes but when do we really set aside time to clean our computer? From the documents to downloads, I’m sure there are hundreds of unwanted files taking up space. You know it’s about time for a cleanup when you can’t even see what your desktop background is anymore.
Didn’t stop there, got a new one 😛

18. Film a vlog.
A vlog is basically a fancy modern version of those home videos your parents took of you as a kid, so go ahead and film yourself on vacation, at an even or just at home. Keep it for yourself to view in the future or share it with others. It’s just a great way to capture memories.
Umm.. Interesting!!

19. Post a video on YouTube. 
Whether you do so with the intention of becoming the next big YouTube guru with your DIY tutorials, to make that home video of your hilarious baby cousin go viral or so you can look back on how you talked twenty years from now, it doesn’t really matter. From vlogs to channeling your inner Steven Spielberg by creating a short film, YouTube is the perfect outlet to post your stuff. And you don’t even have to make your video public.
Done, dara-done.

20. Sign up for a community class. 
It’s the perfect way to start something new, or refine and practice a skill you already have. And you get to make new friends doing so! When you commit to signing up for a class you actually paid money for like Kickboxing, you’re more motivated to actually go, rather than saying, “oh I’ll just exercise at home.”
Gym. Yoga. Squash.

21. Set some goals for the future. 
Think about your future. For the first time in a long time it’s probably unplanned and unexpected. You’ve most likely been a student for the past 16 years of your life and now it’s time to move on. Few of you will know exactly where you will be in one or two years, let alone an entire decade from now. This is the time to plan out exactly what you want to do, where you want to be and how you’re going to get there. Time to go HAM on life! (No one says that any more do they…)
Buhaha, this should be my first option, Way too many! 😛

…and if you think you’re going to be forever 21, then repeat every year.




18/21. Not bad aye. Will be forever 21, repeat. 😉

Welcoming 22 with a grin!
  

The heart never forgets.

It’s so hard to forget someone who gave you so much to remember. I never knew until that moment how bad it could hurt to lose something you never really had. The price of love is loss, and we pay. Following your heart means losing your mind, the hardest thing is to letting go of what you thought was real.

“My heart never forgets.”

I look up to the sky and talk to you. What I wouldn’t give to hear you talk back. I miss it all. Even when I know that I can’t get it. I wish there was something to replace these memories with. But I donot want to, those are the treasures left with me. They say there is a reason, they say that time will heal, But neither of them really change the way I feel.

“My heart never forgets.”

You never said that you were leaving. We never said ‘goodbye’. You were gone before I knew it. If love alone could have changed it all, I would never be here doing this. You hold a place in my heart, how I didn’t know it before. How can I let it go. There is one pain I often feel, which you would never know.

“My heart never forgets.”

I’ve never been afraid to fail, to lose something, but now it’s all changed. In the middle of my life, you entered and made it a tale. I never knew that I would miss you so much. I wish I had the power to ignore all these and find solace.

“My heart never forgets.”

There are so many of us, missing you today, can’t stop thinking about you. I hope you realize how much you’re hurting us. Only heard that something that brings you joy, also brings you pain along. Now I know. And my heart is reluctant to go through this again.

“My heart never forgets.”

In the blink of my eye, it all changed. Treasuring your memories forever. ❤

P.S. We Miss You.